The Journey Begins…

Good Morning, or whatever time you’re reading this entry.  It’s time.  It’s beyond time.

My last drink was 8.15.08, the next morning, after a shot of Narcan and a higher will, I awoke in 2 point restraints in a hospital bed.  At the end of my bed, was a social worker who said wryly, “You think you need some psychiatric help?”  I looked at her and said, “Ya think?”  I had my choice of psychiatric hospitals, which freaked me out, because in Detroit, all the Psych units are the top level of the medical hospitals.  But these were Free Standing Psych Hospitals.  She told me Forest View had better food, so I said there.  What she didn’t tell me was that they had a Trauma Program, headed by Dr. Colin Ross, and some of the finest clinicians I have ever met.

So, I sobered up at Forest View- on LIbrium and B Vitamins.  The next thing I know, I’m attending Trauma classes.  Attachment to the Perpetrator, Locus of Control Shift, Shame, Spectrum Of Emotions.  All things that blew my mind, because they all made horrible sense.

Dr.Ross came to the hospital, as he is wont to do to see a few, special cases.  I was one of those cases.  After sitting with him and being fully cognizant of what, “switching” was and meant, I received a diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID).  My ex had pretty much moved on, but kept of the show of the dutiful boyfriend.  We all know who he was and what and who he turned out to be in the scheme of things.

So I got a therapist, Katy.  And for the next 9 years, used up all my private medicare days at Forest View, had my therapist basically do everything she could so she wouldn’t have to deal with my alters or us integrating.  Her favorite line- and I think her only line when we were in crisis was: “It’s April 8th, 20 blah blah”.  That was it.  No other coping skills.  I don’t self injure.  Never have.  Just was terminally suicidal.

So, working with my new therapist after the old one squeezed me out of her practice, still want to call The State Licensing department on her, but we’ll see.  I gotta pick my battles. The new therapist and I have got it down to four n alters, all with their own, individual systems.

Richard- OCD, Micromanager, Has tried to kill me on numerous occasions, high anxiety, that’s all I know so far.  He has a system of about 30, and I’m sure they have systems too.  Just the nature of my system.

Vicky-Hypersexual, 19, inner party girl.  Likes makeup, fashion, l;ooking good; very flirtatious.  Has about 19 parts, but they all have systems as well.

Matilde-She is in charge of all or most pof the littles.  Too many to count at the present moment.

Matthew- Rage, anger, holds all the rage.  Against lots of different people.  45 parts, some systems.  Violent.  When I get into fights, richard comes out and takes care of business.

So, this is how my system basically and loosely breaks down.  My therapist and I are going to get four binders-she actually got them already, I have the notebook paper, and every morning I have a morning meeting.  Mostly on the laptop, and then I email my therapist a copy.  I’d still do morning meetings, but any additional communications that occur, I write in the corresponding notebook.  I morphed the idea from one of my DID friends.  Then, I’m going to get 4 pieces of foamcore, cover it in craft paper and start to map.  It’s all going to be revised quite regularly, but this is the best way I have found to map my system and dialogue with my parts.

So, now that I am exhausted, I hope maybe this helps somebody.  Take it, morph on the design, use it to help you map your system and become more integrated.  I was informed, that I’ll never have integration, just cooperation.  I’m okay with that.

 

 

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Gratitude is a Verb

Good Morning, this United States of Trump.  A misogynistic pedophile is our new president.  Excuse me while I swallow some bile.  A fucking pedophile.  My favorite kind of piece of shit.

I just got done writing an email to my Namaslayer.  My Yogi.  There are so many things whirling through my brain, because I have had a lot of A ha ha moments in the past week, it’s hard to tease them all out, but here goes:

I have been sick since the second week of October.  So, what is that?  A month?  Anyways, I have the HIV from Dave.  That is all too well known and all to well documented in this blog.  I had a Diet Mountain Dew for him yesterday.  He was actually a Democrat.  I know he would been with her.  Hell I was.  Had to cancel my extended family’s votes out.  But, I digress.

When you are on your ass, sick, and you can’t do shit but breathing treatments every four hours and small things around your house here and there, you have waaaay too much time to think.  I have bronchitis and a sinus infection.  My doc just put me on a short course of Prednisone.  I now want to eat my cat and anything else I can get my grimy, hungry paws on.  It sucks.  Because it is colder now, my pain has jumped up about 60 notches.  Nothing can be done.  Nothing.  But asymptomatic remedies.  And since I am an alcoholic, and had a bout with Oxi Contin, no narcotics for me.  That and the massive crackdown on pain pills.  Which is fine by me, they were prescribing those drugs like tic tacs.  And they’re not fucking tic tacs.  They’re some fucking dangerous drugs.  And you don’t poop, but whatever.  So, I think a lot.

I have realized many things:

  1.  My root chakra will never be healed unless I  directly, firmly, dance with my trauma, hold the pose, end the dance, and gracefully let it go. One incident at a time.  I FINAFUCKINGLY meet with my new therapist this morning at nine am.  I am ever so grateful.  I have a map made up, I made it upload it.  We’ll see if I can get it loaded up.  But, my remaining 4 or 5 parts, are finally speaking to me.  Apparently, we went shopping.  I didn’t recall buying $800 of shit, but apparently, we did.  I didn’t know until I started get email on my phone thanking me for our capitalism.  Great. After the last bout, I sent them All to their fucking rooms.  Mala, pronounced Malayla, is 13 and is my teen.  One of them. I’ve had a lot of teenagers.  If you don’t know me personally, you might not understand.  But if you know me personally, you’ll understand my behavior sometimes.  So, Mala was complaining (as teens do) that she didn’t have a room.  So, I created one for her- in my head, because for me and my system, except when I am dialoging or making a map, most of the action goes on creatively in my head.  DID is for extremely creative and intelligent critically traumatized people, men and women.  So, a lot of our recovery work, and sometimes our actual paid work demands intelligence and creativity.  So, I digress.  I created a room for Mala with whatever the fuck a 13 year old needs.  It was all pepto bismol pink, with maribou, and feathers, and fluff and stuff.  She was ecstatic.  I called them out there yesterday and told them time out was over.  I still have to have a morning meeting with them.  You hold a meeting- they have decided on a treehouse.  Whatever, I’m way too flexible sometimes, so we will have a meeting in the tree house and I will write it down.  That is how my parts system and my part recovery process work.  So, that is why I wake up so damned early.  I have to wake up, do morning meeting, recovery stuff, meditate, pray, chill, and then start my fucking day.  Life ain’t easy being cheesy.  So, until I figure out and work with these last remaining parts, I will never be free, never lose weight, never feel okay in my body or be able to directly look myself in the mirror.  I’m sure there’s a ICD-10 code for that, but I don’t give a fuck right now.

2.  I am angry. Very, very fucking angry.  The bitch who teaches the trauma program at Forest View here in town, helped me get in touch with my anger about 3 years ago.  It’s not just anger, it’s fucking bile rage.  It’s kind of a big deal.  Cuz I didn’t have just one perpetrator, I lost count as to how many perps I had abuse/assault me.  Men and women.  I have a long way to go on relationships.  So, this winter?  It’s going to be intense, on all fronts.  I’ve been angry all my life.   But being a woman, you can’t get angry.  You aren’t allowed to show, feel, or allow yourself to become angered.  It’s bullshit.  I call bullshit.

3.  I am sick.  Have been since October.  Went to the doctor yesterday.  No good news. I’m on Prednisone which interacts with my ARV drug.  So, short course, but my cat is looking good.  But, I have , whatever.  I mentioned this before.  It really- what?  PISSES ME OFF!!!!  Shocking, I know.

4.  I have only know conditional love, unrequited love, trauma bonds and parental unconditional love.  That’s got to change.  But it has to change with me.  I have to heal my root chakra, balance the energy, and as soon as soon as I can nail that one, I am going to soar.

5.  Another perk to being flat on your back is Pinterest.  I am on Pinterest, if you care at all, all, like 7 of you.  I am gypsyzuzu.  I decided to make a Self Care and Self Esteem board.  Along with the other boards I made. Well yesterday, I printed out my “How to Get My Poop in a Group” board, my Journal board, and my Self Care board.  Only relevant pins.  I printed for a good half hour.  Need a new color cartridge.  But that box o paper I bought for grad school was a super wise investment.  And thank goddess I recycle.  So, I have my three hole punch, a binder and time on my hands today.  Can’t go to class, but I sure can lay in bed and be productive as fuck.  Let the Healing Begin!!!  Whoever said that was a fucking genius, or wrote it.  What the fuck ever.

6.  Is there really a 6?  Does there need to be a six…Oh yeah.  My dad yelled at me earlier this week and swore at me.  So, I had to take a super quick inventory once I finished being childish hurt and mad and realized he wouldn’t have barked, had I not pulled his tail.  Which is the catalyst to what has led me to all of the above.  I tend to work in reverse order.  Top down.  Whatever.  My Scottish Laddie hasn’t emailed me back since I told him I don’t do BDSM anymore.  Kinda had my fill of it.  It’s fun and all, but there are limits and moderation in mostly all things.

I don’t have any groovy quotes or any wise words of wisdom.  Just a broken soul trying to put back together this shit show of a blessed life I have.  Oh yeah, gratitude is a verb.  I was taught, early in sobriety that it’s all fine and well to be grateful for things.  “Go around the table and say one thing you’re grateful for…”  Yeah, most of us have been there.  That’s when I try not to suffocate myself with the mashed potatoes.  But, don’t fucking tell me you’re grateful- show me you’re grateful. For instance?  This blog.  When I share these secret, greasy little tidbits about my psyche and my life and how I am trying to reclaim what those sonsabitches took away- my late 20’s, all my 30’s, and hopefully half my 40’s, I am being grateful. Honest, open dialogue is a great way to be grateful.  Because, right now? Even though a pedophile Cheeto is our president (OMFG), I am grateful that my coughing seems to have chilled out.  I am grateful that I can sit upright, in my messy, but beautiful, cozy little shack, type out my game plan, share it honestly and openly with whomever, and be on my merry way.  Even though I have to wear a mask when I go out in public, I’m fucking grateful.  And no, that is not a sarcastic fucking grateful.

I hope you all have a good day.  Color, do whatever makes your spirit soar.  And I will try to load the latest, and greatest pic of my map.  Y’all take care now, ya hear?!

 

 

 

Hurts

Oh dear God.  Today would be my 25th unofficial class reunion, with the official reunion tomorrow.  Too much booze.  My class likes to have a good time.  Our five year reunion was a Fifth, and the invitation was in the shape of a bottle/fifth.  Yeah, was already an alcoholic by the time that one rolled around.  The 20th reunion was very cool.  This one, just…vibes don’t lie. If I have learned anything through this joinery of integration, is vibes don’t lie. Trust your gut; even if you’re switched, and an alter has taken over, trust the gut.  Just too much booze and no safe haven…

Well, slept like crap last night.  Hurts.  Lots of unresolved hurts that I am over feeling guilty about, but have not removed myself from the whipping post yet.  I’m not sure why.  If it goes to it will be too devastating to feel my way through all at once, or who will I be?  What will I leave behind, and how can I deal?

I seem to be running up to that question a lot lately:  Who will I be if I leave this chunk of anguish behind?  A happy, lighter person?!  A person who isn’t chained to her past and all her overdue mistakes?!  A person who will be happy, joyous and free?!  How about that?  How about we try that one on for size?  How about a more integrated, less chunked out human being?  Less pain, more gain?  It’s always going through it that hurts the most.

Problem is I know how much this is going to hurt.  I know how painful and emotionally trying and draining this is going to be, but if I don’t drop it, or shore myself up, I’ll have nights of broken sleep, no weight loss, no peace and no joy.  Who the fuck wants that?

My sponsor and my therapist are leaving for a week and a half.  I need to drop this shit.  If I just sit down and put pen to paper, reach out and use my support systems, I’ll make it through.  But I’m already turtling.  I’m already tucking back into my shell and yanking away from people.  If you read this blog regularly, or take the time to read this blog, y’all know I’ve been scarred.  Not just hurt, but scarred.  Literally and figuratively.  I just, I’m under a lot of stress right now- I know, who the fuck isn’t?  But because of the PTSD, stress freaks me out more.  Instead of being pro-active, I stall and go into freeze mode.  I have a mountain of homework to do, a career presentation, doctor’s appointments, step work, daily responsibilities, and I just am crumbling.  I’m falling apart.  I’m stressed, so hurts hurt more.  We know hurt people hurt people, so I have to be very mindful of that.  Very mindful.  I never realized how stressed I was and why things were hurting the way they did, and why I was beginning to have a bad night sleeping.

I see, grasshopper.  The horizon is more clear than before.  How do you eat an elephant?  One bite at a time…

 

 

 

Back To Life (ish)

Good Morning!  It’s a Monday.  Slept for eleven hours from Saturday to Sunday, which means I only sleep six the following night.  So, I just made breakfast, pounding soda, and I just felt the need to write.  Don’t know why, just something needs to come out to play!

I forgot to mention, my see you next Tuesday/Cuntasaurus Rex of a neighbor was blasting Pink Floyd’s, “Lunatic is on the Grass” song after I got out of the View before partial.  I punched the wall, cuz I figured it would have been better than her throat.  So, yeah, Love thy Neighbor, not.  I’ve said loud enough so she can hear me- we share a wall, yes, it sucks-that if she was bleeding out, I’d call 911, but go about my business.  Mom was like, “That’s not good”, or right or fair or some such horse shit, and I said, “She wouldn’t do the same for me.”  So, turnabout is fair play.  I think she’s back to going to church and shit like that.  That’s her pattern.  She’ll screw half the county, then when she gets her ass handed to her, she buttons up and tries to repent or some such bullshit.  Bless her, change me.  I can’t wait till she leaves.  Even my cat growls at her.

Speaking of cats, I got my baby back.  Yes, last Tuesday, when my folks went up North to help my Aunt, I absconded with Grover.  So, my baby is back.  Siouxsie ain’t having none of it, but I just let them sort it out and try to give equal time etc. to both paw-ties.  I’m very happy to have my little bub back.  My sponsor helped me move him.  I still have to get his cat condo, but he’s got his, “Wheel of Death” toy and a big ol bag of catnip.  So he’s happy.  Siouxsie is not, and she may never be, but it’s getting better.  Good days and bad days.

We are going to Artprize today.  I need to find a piece of Art that inspires a design in me and take a picture or card of the expo piece, and then sketch out my design for Wednesday’s class.  I have color squares to finish painting, another assignment I have to finish/revamp, and study for our quiz/test on Wednesday.  Since our career presentation is due the 19th, I have to step up my game x 50, for that little extravaganza.  But, I finally love what I am in school for.  She’s a great professor.  Her passion for design is really inspiring.  I’m thinking of easy careers for me to go into after I do this stint of school.  Something where I am self-employed, can make and design my own hours, flexible schedule, but the insurance!  Pre-existing conditions, I don’t know.  But I would really like a life of something again.  I’d really like to be self-sufficient.  But, one day at a time, that’s how you build and ensure a successful future.  Or, so I have found.

I finally found my niche for volunteering/service work.  I’m so grateful.  It’s anonymous, so I can’t get into it, but let’s just say, I’m very happy with the direction it is going in.

Let’s see, what else…My mom and I cleaned the snot out of my bedroom that I rarely sleep in yesterday.  Washed walls, floors, surfaces, redecorated, smudged, laid down a protective, positive energy barrier between the shared wall with my bitch of a neighbor, and finally!  After living here for six years, I put up two of the most meaningful pieces of art that I have been hankering to put up on a wall.  I finally feel like the house is moving, you know, like the energy is starting to flow.  Hallelu!

I elected not to go to my class reunion this year.  First of all, the official reunion is going to be hosted in a Dave and Buster’s on the East side, along with a private room and a cash bar and a midnight champagne toast.  The night before, there will be a Homecoming football game with an, “afterglow”, at the local drinking hole/bowling alley.  Now, I did a few people’s fair share of drinking at that bowling alley.  There was never an afterglow for me, just a ton of regret. I couldn’t afford the official reunion with a hotel room.  So, I opted to stay at a local friend’s house, which she had graciously opened to me, and has graciously kept open for me, and the football game for $1000, Alex.  Then, the bowling alley decision was made Saturday night/Sunday morning.  I was pissed.  Can’t go, because after the service work I discovered Saturday, that would be a huge step/leap back for me.  And my class likes to party.  Our five year reunion?  Was a Fifth- even the invitation to the reunion was in the shape of a fifth.  No.  It’s not that I don’t want to, it’s that I can’t.  I’m not jeopardizing my sobriety and serenity.  That’s a deal breaker.

So, yeah, that has happened all this past week.  Went over the new map last Wednesday with Katy.  All my parts are all connected to me, I am very large on the map, and three of them are right out in front.  So, we have work to do.  Both Katy and my sponsor will be gone in two weeks time.  Just the right time for the one year anniversary of Dave’s death (the 8th), and the 8 year anniversary I tested positive for HIV (18th).  So that period might be difficult, but as long as I am mindful and diligent, I think I have half a shot of making it through this time period.

Well, that’s about all I can think of for now.  Hopefully, with some time managemnt and getting back on my ADHD med, at a lower dose, I might actually be able to finish projects, instead of leaving them hanging and half done.  What do you know?!

So, until next time…

 

 

 

 

Round II

Well, this is the second installment of As The Meds Compound.  Actually, it is 2:39 am on Friday morning.  I slept for four hours yesterday, from 4-8:30.  Fell back asleep at 11, just woke up.  Yesterday was a bad day.  My parts came out to play.  They have been coming out to play since July.  But, when I switch, it has always been so seamless, it’s always very hard to tell.  These last parts of my system, are very stubborn, and they come forward so seamlessly and quietly, it’s hard to know when I’m not all here or all me.

Yesterday it was pretty obvious that something was going on.  I was compulsively online shopping, negative thinking, hopelessly stuck in victim thinking.  Didn’t get out of bed, had no desire to get out of bed, it was just bad.  Then, about 2:30, I realized I forgot my anti-depressant.  So I took it, and finally had a little relief.  Great, I got a cat fight on my hands too.  Grover came back to stay.  Siouxsie has been less than hospitable.  It’s okay.  They have to work it out.  Let them sort it out naturally.

But, before I get to Wednesday’s shitshow, I need to cover partial hospital at the View.  I wasn’t there long, but long enough. So, my shrink wanted me to do the PHP.  Fine, no problem.  Well, Partial Hospital had been taken over by a benevolent despot named Alex.  Ex-Military.  He wore combat boots for chrissakes.  The therapist they had found to replace Katy was a TLLP- Temporary Limited Licensed Psychologist.  She had a tail.  Yeah, the hair that was in a string down your back?  So painful.  The whole experience was just painful.  They didn’t put my DID down on my Master Treatment Plan, instead they put ADD.  I’m like okay, kiddos.  No trauma programming.  None at all.  And there were people who needed some trauma intervention.  Bad.  I actually met another cult abuse survivor.  We bonded cuz we’re such odd ducks and not all that common.  You usually don’t get out of cults, it’s kind of like gangs.  You don’t make it out alive.  And if you do, you’re terrified and broken most of the time.

So, I don’t remember much, cuz it was so unremarkable and had changed so much, it left me with a really bad impression.  He- Alex- was like, hadn’t discovered bedside manner, his professional persona yet.  Not really warm, and I in no way, shape or form, trusted him.  At all.  But we did this one exercise, where we sent someone a post card that we wouldn’t send, but it was a closure exercise.  So I chose someone I knew had been haunting me for a long time, and I knew I would never get closure from, and it worked.  Cried the whole hour.  It was really powerful.  It helped ease the pain a lot.  I felt a lot better after the exercise, and I now feel, shaky about it, but on a whole lot more solid ground than I ever had before in regards to this person.  I just feel a lot better.  Huge burden off me.  Huge chunk of shit off my mind and heart.

They do a physical assessment of you.  When I was inpatient, I gave a urine specimen to Amir.  Why?  Because, for Amir, I would pee in a cup.  Well, the nurse takes me back, and says, “your urine specimen came back positive.”  I’m thinking to myself,”FOR WHAT?!!”  I’ve already got the mother of STD’s?!  WTF could I possibly have now?!!  Bladder infection.  From when they took the catheter out at PsychLab.  And poor hygiene, cuz I was on such high alert, with lack of sleep.  Man, getting naked and wet in the shower, getting that vulnerable in those two environments, hell to the nah.  So, I was on horse pill antibiotics.  I was super sick. I had lost 35 pounds and my BP was back to normal.  So, I got a prednisone shot about a month ago for my knees.  Gained back 11 pounds, fucked with my mood, and my hair started thinning and falling out.  So, long story-not really, I wasn’t in Partial that long-short?  The inpatient hospital is still really good for trauma and DID.  Outpatient Partial Hospital- they don’t believe in any trauma or DID whatsoever.  That was my first experience, well, second, experience with someone who thought DID was bullshit.  Which is too bad, but it’s so rare, and so unbelievable that much horrible shit could happen to one person, especially a child, that it’s just repugnant to think of insofar as that is concerned, and then the fact that DID is a creative coping skill for the child to deal with the trauma, it’s too much for the Spock brain to deal with.  Which is too bad.  Most of people with DID I have met are highly intelligent, incredible artistically gifted, very sweet, but very sad and broken.  Including me.  SO, i got discharged from there via mail, and haven’t looked back.

So my next adventure was to interview at Pine Rest for IOP.  Remember, they treated me like an addict, not a mental health patient, so it was IOP.  SO, I went to the Treatment Center out there eon 68th, saw Kevin, and he recommended DBT, not IOP.  I agreed.  So I got in to see someone for IOP.  I had already been to see safe, clearly, so the meds were working and I was doing well.  DBT- long and short of that intake interview?  I would have to give up my primary therapist, that I have worked with for 8 years, integrated all but these last parts with, been through hell in a hand basket with, for a year to work with a chick who was all too willing to label me Borderline PD, told me I would be, “hers”, and wouldn’t look me int eh eye the whole appointment.  Yeah, not so much.  No thanks.  I’ll pass.  And how.  So, I’m back to working with Katy one day a week.  After yesterday, we’re going to have to step it up.  Cuz the parts are popping out all over the place and all the time.

About a month ago, they tried to take over driving.  That was one of the first two cardinal rules I laid down:

  1.  I am the ONLY one who drives, and
  2. No new parts.

So, I’ve been shopping.  A lot.  Not good. So I’m going to have to return somethings.  I’ve been stuffing my feelings.  It’s hard. I never had feelings till I got sober, and I can barely identify them.  Let alone accurately monitor them.  So, I’ve been numbing out and isolating.  I’m also getting ready to do another 4th step.  That really super threatens the leftover parts.  They’re like, “If we get rid of Dave, what and who will be?!”  In other words, if we dump all our pain, and drop the cloak of shame and pain that we have worn so well, for so long, what will become of us?  You can’t convince the die hard parts of your system to enjoy the journey, it just don’t happen.  They’re really not down with that.  Hell, I’m struggling with that, no fucking wonder they are too.  No wonder they are acting out.

My mom doesn’t want anything to do with me and my system.  I switched and was-finally!- co conscious with Alicia, and Mom had told me before, you deal with Katy and Katy alone when you’re like that.  In other words, don’t come to me when you’re not yourself.  It’s a slippery slope.  I had to refresh her memory about babysitting timeline of my childhood.  She didn’t like the truth.  Well, that’s why the truth is inconvenient.  It’s not easy or nice or soft.  But give me truth with tact than a beautiful lie any day.

I made a new map.  It’s, I have two parts that are up front and very active.  They are fraternal twins.  About 14-16 years old.  They each have a system of their own.  Yes, my parts have parts.  Not convenient, but it’s the deal.  So, they’re popping out all over the place.  Not really fun, but what the hell.  They shared a memory with me yesterday.  I have found that if I intensely dislike something or am unreasonably afraid of something, chances are it can be traced back to the abuse.  So, ducks.  I’m afraid, feel sad when I see ducks.  I’m also terrified of them, why?  I have no clue.  Well, I know now.  They made me force feed a duck till it suffocated to death by choking on bread.  then they blamed me for killing the duck.  Not that they weren’t, quite literally, holding a loaded revolver to my head and forcing me to torture this poor, helpless duck and myself.  Fuckers.  OH!  I just burn with anger when I think of all the horrid shit they did to me.  And all the lies I have been telling myself that are so not true.

Like, “You’re not good enough”, “You’re not smart enough”, “you’re not worthy”, “you can’t”, “It’s your fault,  it’s ALL your fault”.  All these cognitive lies they shoved down my throat and into my skull and cognitions and how much it has held me back.  My class at school is a direct result of, “You only live once, so make it good”.  Life is too long to be miserable.”  Don’t get me started on my professor.  She doesn’t return my emails.  Yeah.  Reread that, just in case.  And the guy I got his number, for if I missed and vice versa, hasn’t responded to me either.  I’m realizing we are a very competitive group.  It’s like a low rent version of U of M Law School.  So, I missed Wednesday due to a hellacious migraine.  Do you think they would get back to me seeing as I missed the test review, for our quiz next week?  Hell no. I don’t even want what’s going to be on the test, I just need to know if I need to buy a scantron or my paints or what.  Course, why would that happen? It’s the human thing to do.  In this day and age of social media, who the fuck is congenial and good hearted anymore.  Not many, my friend, not many.

It’s just been a shit day.  Yesterday was a shit day.  My sleep was all broken up.  Sleep has been elusive for me, at best.  Along with all these demons that are beginning to surface and take over if I don’t prune them into submission, I’m going to have a real problem.  So I don’t know.

Today is a new day and I’m going to try to have a routine of some sort down.  It’s going to ne hard since I got a split shift of sleep, but I just need to keep my nose to the grindstone. I need a routine.  I flourish when I have one.  I just have to pencil a lot of stuff in, in a short period of time.  I have a quiz next Wednesday and I have mo idea what to study except everything.  I truly hope she emails me back.  Cuz either I didn’t copy his number down correctly, or he just plum didn’t text me back.  Nada.  Oh well.  I’ve been to grad school.  Even though this is a horse of a different color, it’s still stressful.  Cuz this is when those old tapes get really loud and I cop out/give up.  And I truly don’t want those fucking Roaches to win any more battles and take away anymore from my quality of life.  I’m truly over it.  I only have to change one thing: everything.  So, there.

It’s 3:39 am.  Brand new day.  Let’s make it a good one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let It Go

I should be showering for a 12 step meeting, but I have an itch…for a spew.

So, yesterday, being Friday the 13th, and me, being a Satanic Ritual Abuse survivor-how the hell that ever happened, Allah only knows, but it was an anniversary.  EVERY Friday the 13th from September through May is an anniversary.  Apparently, it is a HUGE day in the Satanic calendar.  Whatever.  Freedom of religion, I guess.  Except when you murder people in front of children and it’s not war- that’s my values, I guess.  ANYWAYS, yesterday was tough.  With most anniversaries, it lasts about three days, two days prior, and the day of said anniversary.  Ok.  So, I made it through.  I bought a black out curtain for my bedroom.  So Myself and my neighborhood would have some privacy.  I don’t recommend them if you battle depression.  They make the room like a cave…of despair.  It’s good, cuz they cut out noise and light- for migraines.  But not for like, being happy and productive.

Okay, flaky part of me emerges, there were five planets retrograde.  Now, we are only down to four, Mercury going direct in like, a week.  But everything damn near is in Taurus and that means money, home, things that grow, stability- all things I struggle with.  I have been troubled because of the damn anniversary and I didn’t even know why-until, duh!  Friday the 13th.  I learned early on, if I was to survive and get though high school and make it out of that godforsaken town, I had to reframe 13 as lucky- which esoterically speaking, it is.  BUT!   I digress!  Surprise, I know.

So, This Taurus thing has been highlighting what you want to materialize on this mortal plane, dig?  Erstwhile, I have been trying to figure out what my next chapter/career/adventure for my forties is going to be, and how to get through.  One thing I know for sure?  I sure as hell don’t want to be sick anymore.  I shore as hell don’t want to be anchored to my past.  I’ve been sick with DID since I was 5,6,7 and so on.  Been disabled since 2002; and sick, physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally since 2000.  I don’t want anymore!!!  I want to live!!!  I want to travel!!  Fuck!  I won a vacation a year ago!  My parents will be married 50 fucking years this July.  I planned the vaca around the time they got engaged in November, to their/our favorite vacation destination- Charleston.  It’s a timeshare thing, but they never got their golf shack when they retired in 2000, because why?  Me.  And they made a choice.  They could have put me in a home and walked away, but they didn’t.  And if y’all don’t think I don’t have gratitude every. single. fucking. day for that and them, and part of the reason I work my ass off so hard, is so they can enjoy their golden years, sonny?  You need to put down the drugs and delusions and check in.  So, basically, twice around the barn to get to the house- now is not the time for black out curtains and checking out.  Now is the time to hustle and manifest on the material plane.

So, there’s this guy I know.  Been sober for like, a million years.  Wise as shit.  He’s like a little 1970’s Buddha/Artist/Tao Wizard/Classic Rock groovy dude.  One day, he says; “How do you let it go?  You just let it go.”  Fuck you.  Because at that point, I was still a’ wrestling with some serious demons.  But the only person holding on to my past, I mean, I’m down to one part, I think, is me.  Because that has been my identity for 16 years.  That’s a huge paradigm shift.

So, while laying in my den of misery, I’ve been asking myself a question, okay, questionsssss- What do you want?  Who do you want to be?  What do you want to accomplish- Fuck!  Do you want to accomplish anything.  I’ve come full circle.  I want to be an antique freak.  Just have a booth, in a mall, just for starters, and then eventually, expand.  My mom has been warming up to the idea.  It’s real part time.  Like, some antique malls you go and work, some you don’t, some you pay rent, some you just work there a couple times for booth rent.  I mean, the trips to shows would be write offs…I love looking at Dead People’s Stuff- NOT MINE- There is an actual antique store named Dead People’s Stuff.  Personally, with my macabre ass, I think it’s fucking hysterical.  I also thought about writing a one woman show with a bunch of monologues, that are certain slices of my life.  All the characters, etc.  Florida.  Greece.  Detroit.  Ypsi.  GR.  Men.  The last 16 years.  The Lazarus Club.  NAMI.  All of it.  Just my life in monologues.  There’s a theatre here I can rent to do my show.  I’d need a chair, some lighting, and audience, and about 5 angels. But, just some ideas I’m tossing around.  I’m tossing around a lot.  I loooooooooove to travel.  I love to perform.  But I gotta get a routine down.

Part of my problem is with this DID and being knocked off my square, there are some times, I need to just curl up and huddle up, you know.  Self preservation.  But, there are also times, when, I need to live life fully.  Just rip the marrow out of the skeleton of life.  And savor life.  Not be afraid all the time.  When Dave died, so much fell away.  So much left.  I finally wasn’t looking over my should all the fucking time.  What a relief!!!  My God. I knew it would take his death for me to finally be free.  I know the priest he confessed his sins to on his death bed, is probably still drunk.  Seriously.  He was a bad dude.  More than you could ever imagine.  And my dysfunctional ass loved him.  A part of him.  Do I think he had DID?  I used to.  Now I know he was just a murdering basterd.  Oh!  That would be another monologue- all three loves, that actually loved me in return, were all murdering bastards.  Whether for country, war or thrill, they were all murderers.  I now have 15 minutes to get to my meeting.  Crunch.  Okay.

So, long and short of it.  How do you let it go?  You just let it go.  I have decided I don’t want to be that person anymore.  I don’t want to remember her at all.  I don’t want any part of her at all anymore.  She was sick, hurting, miserable, and sad.  And LONELY.  AND SCARED- of EVERYTHING!!!!  It’s time to live again. It’s time to reach up and out.  To push through the dirt and bloom.

“It’s Not Your Fault”.  “You like apples?  How bout these apples?”  Yeah, it’s possible.  Anything is possible.  But sitting on your hands and wishing for disney or pixar or whoever, or prince charming – if you have seen Into the Woods, you know Prince Charming was a douche-to come and scale your castle walls.  Unh uh.  Ain’t never going to happen.  Gotta hustle and flow, baby.  Hustle and flow.