Let It Go

I should be showering for a 12 step meeting, but I have an itch…for a spew.

So, yesterday, being Friday the 13th, and me, being a Satanic Ritual Abuse survivor-how the hell that ever happened, Allah only knows, but it was an anniversary.  EVERY Friday the 13th from September through May is an anniversary.  Apparently, it is a HUGE day in the Satanic calendar.  Whatever.  Freedom of religion, I guess.  Except when you murder people in front of children and it’s not war- that’s my values, I guess.  ANYWAYS, yesterday was tough.  With most anniversaries, it lasts about three days, two days prior, and the day of said anniversary.  Ok.  So, I made it through.  I bought a black out curtain for my bedroom.  So Myself and my neighborhood would have some privacy.  I don’t recommend them if you battle depression.  They make the room like a cave…of despair.  It’s good, cuz they cut out noise and light- for migraines.  But not for like, being happy and productive.

Okay, flaky part of me emerges, there were five planets retrograde.  Now, we are only down to four, Mercury going direct in like, a week.  But everything damn near is in Taurus and that means money, home, things that grow, stability- all things I struggle with.  I have been troubled because of the damn anniversary and I didn’t even know why-until, duh!  Friday the 13th.  I learned early on, if I was to survive and get though high school and make it out of that godforsaken town, I had to reframe 13 as lucky- which esoterically speaking, it is.  BUT!   I digress!  Surprise, I know.

So, This Taurus thing has been highlighting what you want to materialize on this mortal plane, dig?  Erstwhile, I have been trying to figure out what my next chapter/career/adventure for my forties is going to be, and how to get through.  One thing I know for sure?  I sure as hell don’t want to be sick anymore.  I shore as hell don’t want to be anchored to my past.  I’ve been sick with DID since I was 5,6,7 and so on.  Been disabled since 2002; and sick, physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally since 2000.  I don’t want anymore!!!  I want to live!!!  I want to travel!!  Fuck!  I won a vacation a year ago!  My parents will be married 50 fucking years this July.  I planned the vaca around the time they got engaged in November, to their/our favorite vacation destination- Charleston.  It’s a timeshare thing, but they never got their golf shack when they retired in 2000, because why?  Me.  And they made a choice.  They could have put me in a home and walked away, but they didn’t.  And if y’all don’t think I don’t have gratitude every. single. fucking. day for that and them, and part of the reason I work my ass off so hard, is so they can enjoy their golden years, sonny?  You need to put down the drugs and delusions and check in.  So, basically, twice around the barn to get to the house- now is not the time for black out curtains and checking out.  Now is the time to hustle and manifest on the material plane.

So, there’s this guy I know.  Been sober for like, a million years.  Wise as shit.  He’s like a little 1970’s Buddha/Artist/Tao Wizard/Classic Rock groovy dude.  One day, he says; “How do you let it go?  You just let it go.”  Fuck you.  Because at that point, I was still a’ wrestling with some serious demons.  But the only person holding on to my past, I mean, I’m down to one part, I think, is me.  Because that has been my identity for 16 years.  That’s a huge paradigm shift.

So, while laying in my den of misery, I’ve been asking myself a question, okay, questionsssss- What do you want?  Who do you want to be?  What do you want to accomplish- Fuck!  Do you want to accomplish anything.  I’ve come full circle.  I want to be an antique freak.  Just have a booth, in a mall, just for starters, and then eventually, expand.  My mom has been warming up to the idea.  It’s real part time.  Like, some antique malls you go and work, some you don’t, some you pay rent, some you just work there a couple times for booth rent.  I mean, the trips to shows would be write offs…I love looking at Dead People’s Stuff- NOT MINE- There is an actual antique store named Dead People’s Stuff.  Personally, with my macabre ass, I think it’s fucking hysterical.  I also thought about writing a one woman show with a bunch of monologues, that are certain slices of my life.  All the characters, etc.  Florida.  Greece.  Detroit.  Ypsi.  GR.  Men.  The last 16 years.  The Lazarus Club.  NAMI.  All of it.  Just my life in monologues.  There’s a theatre here I can rent to do my show.  I’d need a chair, some lighting, and audience, and about 5 angels. But, just some ideas I’m tossing around.  I’m tossing around a lot.  I loooooooooove to travel.  I love to perform.  But I gotta get a routine down.

Part of my problem is with this DID and being knocked off my square, there are some times, I need to just curl up and huddle up, you know.  Self preservation.  But, there are also times, when, I need to live life fully.  Just rip the marrow out of the skeleton of life.  And savor life.  Not be afraid all the time.  When Dave died, so much fell away.  So much left.  I finally wasn’t looking over my should all the fucking time.  What a relief!!!  My God. I knew it would take his death for me to finally be free.  I know the priest he confessed his sins to on his death bed, is probably still drunk.  Seriously.  He was a bad dude.  More than you could ever imagine.  And my dysfunctional ass loved him.  A part of him.  Do I think he had DID?  I used to.  Now I know he was just a murdering basterd.  Oh!  That would be another monologue- all three loves, that actually loved me in return, were all murdering bastards.  Whether for country, war or thrill, they were all murderers.  I now have 15 minutes to get to my meeting.  Crunch.  Okay.

So, long and short of it.  How do you let it go?  You just let it go.  I have decided I don’t want to be that person anymore.  I don’t want to remember her at all.  I don’t want any part of her at all anymore.  She was sick, hurting, miserable, and sad.  And LONELY.  AND SCARED- of EVERYTHING!!!!  It’s time to live again. It’s time to reach up and out.  To push through the dirt and bloom.

“It’s Not Your Fault”.  “You like apples?  How bout these apples?”  Yeah, it’s possible.  Anything is possible.  But sitting on your hands and wishing for disney or pixar or whoever, or prince charming – if you have seen Into the Woods, you know Prince Charming was a douche-to come and scale your castle walls.  Unh uh.  Ain’t never going to happen.  Gotta hustle and flow, baby.  Hustle and flow.